Considering what to allow to happen when I’m close to pass
@A MyCOPDTeam Member, on the practical side, my husband and I had a Trust set up for our kids years ago as I used to do bereavement ministry, and found that many people don’t take care of things like appointing a Will, Living Will directive stating our wishes at end of life, medical power of attorney, etc. then finally paid for and wishes stayed as far as our funeral. Last gift to our kids, as it’s pretty expensive to be buried😏
We did these things for our kids so they didn’t have to worry about it, or have fights about what to do. It’s already stated .
You need to decide for yourself what you want. My criteria is that if I have a good chance of surviving whatever it is and having a good quality of life afterward, then I'm all for living. If the prognosis is being less able than I am now, with less quality of life, then I'm ready to check out. As far as I'm concerned, there's no point in living if it's not fun, if it hurts and if I'm unhappy. Why bother at that point? I've done what I wanted to do in life and I'm pleased with the outcome, so I'm satisfied to let go.
Hi Teresa, what do yo mean close to pass? I can't do house cleaning that well. Believe it or not, my 91 year old mom does a lot for me. I sometimes get depressed where I say, is it worth living like this, but it is. Life is a gift from God. Even though we can't breath and do what we use to be able to do, it is still worth living. Like the ones we love in our lives. I see you are holding a beautiful baby. Is that your grandchild? I'm stage 4 ,and it is so hard to do anything, but I have to try. I have been in the hospital numerous times; and one time, close to death. I wouldn't allow my brain to believe it. So with the help of all of the nurses and doctors I pulled through. I have a beautiful daughter who lives across the Country. I can think what it would be like not to hear her laugh, or ever see her again. She is my world. We fall into a slump where we find ourselves just watching T.V.; and sleeping. Saying is it worth it. I find I get depressed. I lost my father, my sister, and my brother, so I feel alone. I also just got divorced after 23 years. It felt like a death. Please, Please, stay strong. You are not alone here. We all feel like throwing in the towel at times. Try your hardest to fight the good fight. Everyone loves you. big HUG AND KISS. Teresa
@TiptoeRose0, relate to your losses, my mother died when I was 3 from polio, have lost my loving grandparents, my brother, my dad, and so many dear friends...don’t understand the whys, but know that the Lord allowed them and made me more compassionate to people suffering loss, and others. We can’t see the big picture, but believe it made me more reflective, kind, and compassionate because of the losses. It says in scripture, that when we suffer, we then can encourage those who are suffering to keep going. Think that’s why I’m so thankful for this website.
Thank you for sharing yourself to us🦋❤️
@A MyCOPDTeam Member, agree with @TiptoeRose0, don’t give up...so very sorry you are in a place where you want to give up, DON’T! We care about you, it’s hard, but you are stronger than you realize...pulling for you and asking for you to feel the love of people who care.🙏🏻🦋