Unfortunately, it sounds like what you have to look forward to is more of the same. Your husband is engaging in a number of behaviors that are pretty self-destructive and it doesn't sound as if he's like to stop. In your shoes, I'd begin to make sure I took care of myself as well as care for him. You need some time away, you need people to talk with and you need people to care about you. Maybe your minister or church can help with some of the supports you could use.

Jean

@@@joycelillieboe hope u r getting help. u might have to hire caregiver relief. check ur state agencies and see if there are any

Yes I do I hate to sound harsh but with all that he really know is going on with himself he is drinking to avoid the pain of it all meaning mentally and smokes because it is all an addiction and it eases his life and these horrible ways do it for now I remember how I LOVED to smoke 27 years ago I couldn't wait for that coffe and /or drink and light up It was so relaxing I think now UGH!

not much you can do its his choice i agree get some help for yourself and let the bastard die

I know what u saying my husband is on oxygen 24/7 still smokes but cut back a lot on 2 inhalers and has a nubalizer machine