I suggest you find a good therapist and get some help in dealing with your righteous anger. You don't want to take it out on her! Just FYI, COPD is not necessarily a death sentence, and there are things your wife can do to help herself, and you can help her do them. The problem is they're hard things to do, and it certainly helps if she has your support. First no smoking, if she ever did. Second, she needs to talk with her pulmonologist about a good exercise program, possibly pulmonary rehab. As crazy as it sounds, exercise is the best thing she can do for herself after no smoking. And third, she needs to get as close to a normal weight as she can. Carrying extra pounds around takes a lot more lung power and when that's limited, the less the better. You could help with all those things by being supportive and working with her. She's lucky to have you.

Using up energy with anger over some thing in the future that none of us can control. It is mixed with fear and put it to use in other ways that benefit you both. people are lasting years and you could go before her, so make sure there is a plan if this happens. It is now time to live your lives --one day at a time -- because really this is all we have. The future is in a place we can not see.

Ken62, That's how I feel as well, very angry to be here myself. I thought I was a machine, and was going to live forever. FUnny thing for me, is I had a near death experience, at 18, fell from an ocean tanker, 30 feet, and hit the dock got wedged tween ship and dock b4 waves n current moved the ship. SOmee jumped 30 higher then I was n pulled me out. after a couple weeks on respirators, the rehap, I had quit my only 10 pk smoking history (and bad drinking, too). So interested in what was done to save me, and the fact I have an elevated, paralized hemi diagphram, on right, so that side challaged enough. However, We all decided I developed my COPD, with 2nd and 3rd hand smoke, from both my parents, annd the houses, I lived with them at. Affter 12 years of various jobs, and another friends accident, and on a ventilator, I decided to look into going back to school for respiratory therapy, at 30 years old. Only needed one year for Cert, 2 for registered, I liked helping people, so much like your wife and others, I would be doing it now, dragging around my O2 tank if they would let me. That being said, pulmatory rehab will be best for you as you learn, the correct exercises, for one, and other things, you can do to build up strength, , and maintain energy lveel, but other things, like in diet some foods, actually give of CO2, in its digestion as biproducts, and she has anough CO2, as it is. My problem, is worsened, as I have a heart problem, Hypertropic Obstructive Cardiomyopathy, which severly cuts back my blood flow, called Ejection fraction, from the neede 40-55%, to about 20%. So I am ok, to sit here an watch TV or read these words, but I had to rest 3-4 times in writing this statement to you and my team who I hope reads it. , SO pulm rehab, and make the best of your time together. The was an article written In 1969 Elizabeth Kubler-Ross wrote On Death and Dying. That will explain your feeling and your lovely wifes. great reading. God Bless!

That says it like it is thank you ocean have a good day

Need to concentrate on the days/months/years you have together NOW. She still may outlast you.